Why are black women & white men trying to pursue my black husband and I all of a sudden?

I don't believe you two are self-haters. You love each other and that's all that matters. I believe there's a lot of truth to what you say. I feel like I am in the same boat. I don't think black guys like me because they go after a certain type of black females. So if white guys want to ask me out, then I will date them, and probably afterward, black guys will start paying attention but I don't want them anymore.