What would you do if your child had this problem?

I would say that, yes, your feelings are normal. there's nothing wrong w/ feeling the way that you do. And I would also say that i think you're wasting too much time and energy worrying about him. He will do what he wants regardless and the only person whose going to change his ways is him. You can't do it for him. Just focus on your own financial status, and try not to worry about his.